The Universal Importance of Respect Across Cultures

One of the most consistent truths I’ve observed in fatherhood—whether here in the U.S. or in other parts of the world—is the importance of respect. It transcends cultures, languages, and borders. Respect is the foundation of healthy relationships, not just between fathers and their children, but also within marriages, communities, and even nations.

Recently, my family and I had dinner with some close friends who are Ethiopian. They’ve lived in the U.S. for a while, but grew up in Ethiopia, and I was curious to hear their thoughts on fatherhood in their culture. I asked them, “What does it mean to be an Ethiopian man?” Their answer struck me: regardless of religion or region, to be an Ethiopian man means to show respect, to respect others, and to live in a way that commands respect. It’s ingrained in their society, so much so that even younger siblings automatically stand when their older brother enters a room—a gesture of deep-rooted respect.

It’s fascinating how this emphasis on respect is woven into the fabric of different cultures. In Ethiopia, respect is a way of life, influencing everything from familial interactions to broader social norms. Similarly, in Uganda and the Dominican Republic—where our work through Man Up and Go has taken us—respect is a fundamental value. I’ve noticed that in these places, respect is not just about social hierarchy, but about maintaining harmony in the family and community.

One thing I’ve learned from working in these countries is that respect isn’t just about the position you hold; it’s about how you live your life and the example you set. In many of the communities we serve, fathers are expected to lead by example. And when they show love, protection, and care, they command the respect of their families and neighbors. This principle of respect is deeply biblical as well. Ephesians 6:4 tells fathers, "Do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord." In other words, respect goes both ways. Fathers are called to raise their children with care and intentionality, not through harshness or frustration, but through love and guidance.

As a father, one of my greatest desires is to pass on my knowledge to my children. But here’s the thing—if they don’t respect me, how can I teach them anything? It’s the same in marriages or any relationship. Respect is the currency through which we exchange wisdom, love, and understanding. And it’s something men around the world desire—whether in the U.S., Ethiopia, Uganda, or anywhere else. Men want to be respected, and in turn, they want to share their wisdom and experiences.

This isn’t just a cultural observation; it’s a universal truth. As men, as fathers, we crave respect because it allows us to fulfill our role as teachers and protectors. It’s about setting the temperature in your home, showing humility, and being willing to serve. At the end of the day, respect is at the heart of every meaningful relationship. Whether we’re guiding our kids, loving our spouse, or leading in our communities, it all starts with respect—just like in Ethiopia and countless other places around the world.

Thanks for reading,

Jeff Ford